A great lesson I learned quite a few years ago was that you should never make life decisions based on more money. As a young and too brash mid-20ish person I did just that. I sold out. It wasn’t bad, I doubled my salary and I moved to an exciting city. But….i forgot my values and my principles. Not going to bore you with a long story of morality but as soon as I got there, the very first day of work, I knew I had messed up in a big way.
True story, but one of my old bosses called me the first week on Friday and he said,
“Miguel, today is Friday and I am sure that by now you know you made a mistake, which you obviously will never accept but I have to tell you, your job is right here waiting for you and we will pay for the move, consider this a life lesson.”
As a good and decent young executive I told him the truth,
“of course not, I am extremely happy here”
To which his reply was
“sure you are, but I will call you in a few weeks and will offer you this again”
Like clockwork and about the same time he called me in 2 weeks and told me
“I bet you are still pretty happy, the offer is on the table and we need you”
I told him that i was just fine, even though I was miserable. Pride, you guessed it
“I will call you again in a month and hopefully you will accept your mistake”
So once again and like a clock (I think he set an alarm to be honest) he calls me again on the day and at the time
“ok young man, this will be the last time I call you, I can’t help you after today”
So I gave up and told him, So and So, I am fine where I am at, hung up and banged my head on the wall for several minutes.
Honestly this was the greatest decision I have ever made…. You thought I was going to say that it was a mistake, right. Well, it was not. The new company where I was working at was awful and treated its people miserably. I used to joke years after and told people I got my Master’s in Anti Human Resources while I was there, but…..
The truth of it is that making mistakes along the way and for the wrong reasons is a costly matter, especially if you do not learn from them. I went for the money because I believed that was my priority. But if I had not done that, I would not have struggled the next couple of years and would not have learned all the other things I learned or met the people I met.
You can not and should not be sorry for the mistakes you have made, that is a harsh reality, you just have to live with them. As I venture in this new company, I live with my decisions and pray to God I do not get calls from anybody this time, well, it might teach me something if I do get it…….
Keep calm and stay humble!